Don’t be a Slave to the Man

So just to get some of the boring admin crap out the way first… Like, where the hell have I been all your life? And why the heck haven’t I blogged in forever? I shall explain.

I may have accidentally had an unscheduled extended break from the blogosphere for a while. Like somewhere around a year ish. The reason why? Well I started a new job. A job that came with a whole new lifestyle and a lack of routine. A job in which time just ‘flies’ by and I feel tired approximately 90% of the time.

I am a flight attendant now. I love my job. It’s fun, I get to work with some great people and fly all over the country, seeing cities I wouldn’t see otherwise. But boy, has it been a lifestyle change!

It’s no 9-5. Sometimes I start work at 4am, sometimes it’s 10pm. Sometimes I’m away from home for four days at a time, sometimes it’s only one.I usually only sleep in my own bed a few nights a week and miss my partner and doggo A LOT! There’s no routine. And I like routine. Even excercise has taken a bench seat. When I am home, I really value the time I get to spend with my two boys. I appreciate the sleep ins, being an introvert as much as socially acceptable and catching up on z’s. But I also have to find time for life errands, seeing friends and just general adulting.

The adjustment was especially hard when I first started. I was exhausted allllll the time (now I’m just tired the majority of the time), I was getting sick way too regularly (because, passengers and germs and run down), and did I mention I was always bloody tired? So naturally, my absence from One Active Life was to be expected in those initial months of finding my feet and getting accustom (both mentally and physically) to #cabincrewlife. But slowly, as I spent more time away from writing, the less motivated I was. I thought about it sometimes, but never opened my laptop. The more time away, the less passionate I became. To the point, One Active Life wasn’t even something I thought about anymore.

Writing used to be something I enjoyed. Something I loved. Something that gave me a sense of purpose and gave me a outlet for self expression. It wasn’t a burden. It was a joy. A way for me to clear my head and hopefully inspire others at the same time. So I’ve had to ask myself, how did I let it get to this point? How did I allow my priorities to slip?

I read a quote the other day which is relevant on so many levels, including this context. It said:

Your killing yourself for a job that would replace you within a week if you dropped dead. Take care of yourself.

Heavy. But holy wow isn’t it true?!

So many of us work so hard, we have no life left in us to actually live. To actually enjoy our down time, our hobbies, our passions, our families, our friends – the simple things. How freakn sad is that! Where’s the balance? And for the most part we are burning ourselves out for someone who doesn’t even appreciate or acknowledge all the hard work and overtime we put in.

To a large company you are disposable. You are just a number. A easily replaceable cog in the machine. If that’s all you are to them, don’t make them your whole life. Unless you are self-employed, living out your passion or perhaps working for a small business that truly appreciates you, I know you can relate! (Having worked for both a small business and large organisations, I’m raising my hands in an ‘amen’ to that!)

By all means, do your job, do it well, work hard but don’t take that shit home with you. Clock off and clock off mentally too. Don’t get too busy having a career that you forget to have a life. Stop working so bloody hard for a company that doesn’t value your worth and start living! Find a healthy work life balance so that in twenty years when you do look back, you remember doing more than just working, eating and sleeping.

And while I (clearly) have a lot to express about all this to the point I could go on to write a novel, I’ll try not to digress any further. Basically, I’ve realised that I too have allowed my job to take over my life this past year. And as much as I do love flying, (it’s not the job itself I have beef with, but the by-product of #cabincrewlife aka the tiredness, the fatigue, exhaustion and lack of motivation to do anything other than hermit), I’ve decided things need to change. I’m no longer going to be a slave to the Man. I’m going to do as much as I can to be home more often and manage my sleep. To enjoy my time off and spend time with loved ones. But most importantly, I am going to start writing again, rekindle that passion and maybe even feel purpose beyond serving tea and coffee on a plane.

I can’t promise it’ll be a regular thing but I am committed to do something for ME again. I AM going to fall in love with writing again.

Unit next time…

Love Eloise x

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Action Before Motivation

  We all have off days. Days we feel tired or uninspired. Days when getting out of bed seems like the hardest thing in the world. We wait patiently for that wave of motivation to hit before bouncing into the days activities, but that motivation never comes. The day is wasted.

It’s normal. It happens. But it begs the question? What comes first, the chicken or the egg? I mean… motivation or action?

Motivation doesn’t always come easily. Heck, sometimes it doesn’t come at all. Whether its’s exercising, studying, starting a new project or something else entirely, we have come to expect motivation to precede action. Yes this seems like the logical order of things; BAM! Inspiration strikes, action follows. But unfortunately it doesn’t always work out that way.

A photograph of your ‘dream body’, an uplifting quote or simply the realisation that you need to make a change, can certainly prompt positive steps but it doesn’t always make things happen. Motivation isn’t something that magically manifests. We have to create it. And how do we create it? By taking action.

When you start taking action, once you see and feel the benefits, momentum kicks in and suddenly you feel motivated. This is especially true with fitness. It’s never easy to get started, but when it becomes a consistent habit and you begin noticing results, seeing your body change, your fitness increasing, your mind clearing and your energy levels booming, that is when motivation happens.

You just have to make a start!

I get it though. Some days, I don’t want to get out of bed either. All I want to do is snooze through that 5am alarm, or lay in bed instead of going to the gym. Other times I think to myself, ‘I’ll just wait until I feel like getting up’. However, the problem with waiting (procrastinating) until I’m in the mood to exercise or the mood to write or the mood to catch up with someone, is that in most cases, that mood never arrives.

If you are constantly waiting for the perfect moment, you’ll never get anything done. The perfect moment to start is right now!

If you wait until you ‘feel like it’, it’ll never happen. You cannot wait around for motivation to come to you. You just have to get up, get moving and (in the wise words of Nike), ‘JUST DO IT!’ 

Love Eloise x

Staying Motivated In The Winter Months

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Winter. The cold, dark mornings, the rainy days, the brisk icy air. All of these things make it a lot harder to stay committed to gym plans. If you have been struggling to stay motivated during the colder months, here are some tips and tricks to remember that will help you keep on track.

1. Summer bodies Are made in the Winter

It may be cold right now but in a few short months the jumpers, scarves and jeans will become redundant and it’ll be all about bikinis and board shorts. When that first warm day hits, wouldn’t you rather reveal the bangin’ beach bod you’ve been training tirelessly for, rather than some extra winter layers? Put the hard work in now and you’ll be set for the summer sun as soon as it comes out to play.

2. Buddy Up

Having an exercise buddy is one of the best ways to stay motivated on your health and fitness journey. Plan your workouts together, arrange to meet at the gym, keep each other in the loop and boost each other up. Having someone else to check in with every now and then, especially when temptations are rife, keeps you accountable. Not to mention, if you plan to meet your friend at the gym you are less likely to bail because you won’t just be letting yourself down anymore, but your gym buddy too. Plus working out with a friend is always more fun!

3. Set Goals

Setting goals is so important. When you have something specific to work towards you’ll have more motivation to achieve it! Start with small achievable goals first and gradually build on them as you reach a new milestone. With each little win you’ll be even more pumped to keep up the hard work.

4. Reward yourself with Incentives

Woke up at 5:00am to exercise 3 times this week? Didn’t skip a single workout? Stayed committed to your clean eating? Well done! You deserve to be congratulated. Yes, your transformed fitness is reward enough, but sometimes having little incentives can help boost that motivation just that little extra. Put $1 in a jar every time you workout, get a new PB or drop a kg and in no time you’ll have enough money to treat yourself to some new workout clothes, a well-deserved massage or that little something you’ve been eyeing off at the shops for a while. Just don’t reward yourself with food (your not a dog).

5. Before and After Pictures

Another way to remain accountable and track your progress is with before, (during) and after photographs. Whenever you need a little reminder why you started or feel like all the effort you are putting in is going to waste, take a look back at those ‘before’ pics to compare your progress. Sometimes the scales won’t budge but change is happening! You just need to see it to be believe it. Also take note of how your clothes start fitting you differently.

6. Prioritise Your Priorities

Don’t give up what you want most for what you want now. Always think back to why you started and what your goals are. When your alarm goes off at 5:00am on a cold rainy morning, the lure of your warm bed may be more inviting, but just think ‘does the short term satisfaction out way the long term satisfaction’? 30 minutes extra sleep, or dream body? Weigh it up.

7. Get Organised

Fail to prepare, prepare the fail. Being well prepared and organised can make all the difference between succeeding and failing. Book your gym sessions in advance, meal prep at the beginning of the week, lay your gym clothes out the night before an early training session and schedule your workouts in to your diary.

Now, if that doesn’t help kick start the motivation during the winter months, I don’t know what will. Always remember, the only workout you’ll ever regret, is the one that you didn’t do.

Love Eloise xx