Love Who You Are

Loving Yourself is the best thing you will ever do.

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‘To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.’ – Alan Cohen

Learning to love myself is probably the hardest challenge I have ever had to face. I have never struggled with anything more than I have done with this. I have always wished to be one of those women who truly and wholeheartedly love themselves. Someone so utterly happy and content in their own skin that they absolutely radiate with confidence. One of those women who, despite their flaws, still embrace who they are and accept themselves completely.

Wouldn’t that just be so elevating? So refreshing? To not worry about how you look every single minute of every single day. To not be paralyzed by negative self-talk, hatred and low self-esteem. To be so content with who you are as a person that you never feel the need to impress anyone. Can you just imagine how wonderful that would be?

Well let me tell you, it really is A-MAZING!!!

After years (I’d say roughly 24 or so), I have finally found happiness in who I am. I can finally say that I truly love and accept myself. I am content, confident and proud of the woman I have become. I accept myself and my flaws. It has certainly been a long and treacherous journey with many bumps along the way but I, Eloise Smith, can finally say… I love me.

I think the reason I struggled with the concept of self love for such a long time is because I was on quest for something I could never be… Perfect. A trap, a lot of us fall into.

Loving yourself isn’t about being 100% happy with every last inch of your body and soul. It’s not about being perfect. After all, perfection doesn’t exist. Self love is about acceptance. It is about accepting that you have flaws, that you make mistakes, that you are unique. And it’s those things that make you, you! It’s about truly embracing yourself for the beautiful individual that you are.

And I’m not just talking about body love. What I am really talking about is, inner love. Self approval from within. It’s when you wholly love the person you are inside, that everything else follows. When you finally find and understand yourself as a person, when you finally become happy with all your personality quirks and discover your inner beauty, you realize that having the perfect body really doesn’t matter. Your body is just a shell. A shell for what actually matters – your mind and your soul.

The absolute best thing about finding self love and acceptance is the opportunities that follow. For me, it feels like my eyes have been opened up to a whole new world of possibilities. I have a new found confidence. I am willing to branch out of my comfort zone. I am finally confident in myself and content with who I am. I no longer fear rejection or ridicule. I no longer need to impress anyone. I like who I am. I like the woman I have become. I am happy with me and if someone else doesn’t like me, then that’s perfectly ok. I am who I am, and people can either choose to take it or leave it.

I’d rather be disliked for who I am than liked for someone I am not.

It is true what they say. Love yourself first and the rest will fall into place.

You must learn to love yourself. You must learn to be happy with yourself. Only then can you spread love and happiness to others.

Love Elo xx

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Staying Healthy This Christmas

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The silly season is certainly creeping up on us. Well not really creeping, more like sprinting towards us at full speed. With just 8 sleeps until Santa comes to town, the countdown to Christmas has well and truly begun. (When did that happen? I swear it was still over a month away just the other day!)

The festive season is always a joyous time of year, filled with sharing, giving, spending quality time with loved ones and food. Lots and lots of food. With all the Christmas parties, family get togethers and work functions around this time of year it’s not uncommon, in fact it’s pretty much guaranteed, that you’ll be faced with a bunch temptations… mostly in the form of indulgent food and alcohol.

But Christmas time shouldn’t be an excuse to let all the healthy habits you have developed throughout the year go out the window. It’s ok to indulge every now and then, with the festive season is the perfect chance to treat yourself a little bit, but just don’t overdo it. Go ahead and indulge but don’t overindulge.

Thankfully, it is possible to make it through the festive season without undoing all your hard work. Here are 7 of my top tips for a healthy Christmas.

1. Stop At One Helping.

When the smorgasbord of Christmas deliciousness is sitting in front of you, it is pretty tempting to let all self control go and eat your way through two or three helpings of food. But not this Christmas! Limit yourself to just one serving and reframe from going back for seconds.

2. Bring Along Something Healthy.

/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/252/60076089/files/2014/12/img_1625.jpgIf you are asked to bring along a plate to your Christmas get together make sure your contribution is something healthy. Perhaps a salad, or a low-sugar desert. That way you can be sure that there will be at least one healthy option for you to choose from.

3. Don’t Go Overboard.

I’m talking about portion control. Stop eating when you are content. Not when you are so full you slip into a food coma and cannot move. There’s a huge difference between eating just enough to satisfy your hunger, and overeating to the point you feel sick. Stay in control of your portions. Try a little bit of everything if you must but don’t keep mindlessly eating for the sake of finishing every last mouthful, especially if you end up having to undo your top button.

4. Exercise Outdoors.

/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/252/60076089/files/2014/12/img_1627.jpgDon’t let ‘but the gym is closed’ be an excuse to get complacent with your exercise regime. You don’t need a gym to workout! There are still plenty of things you can do without equipment or gym classes, from body weight exercises at home, to beach strolls, hill runs and bike rides. Try exercising outdoors or perhaps even make a date with a friend so you can motivate each other to get active together. There really is no excuse for not exercising! With all the extra food you’ll be eating, your body will appreciate the physical activity.

5. Re-gift Those Unhealthy Treats.

What is it with everyone giving the gift of chocolate at Christmas time? If you find yourself with a stash of chocolates and shortbreads this Chrissy, don’t go to town eating them all. Maybe treat yourself to one or two choccies (if you feel like it) and regift the rest. Why not even take them in to work to share amongst the office. That way you can avoid overindulging on them yourself.

6. Stay hydrated.

/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/252/60076089/files/2014/12/img_1628.jpgWith the weather being much hotter at this time of year, it’s very easy to become dehydrated. To avoid dehydration and also overeating (a lot of the time when we think we are ‘hungry’ we are actually just thirsty) make sure you still drink plenty of H2o. If you are indulging in alcohol this festive season, keep up the 1 for 1 rule. 1 glass of water to every alcoholic beverage. Which brings me to my next tip..

7. Ditch the alcohol altogether.

We already know about Alcohol’s damaging effects on our metabolism and the body’s ability to store energy, so why not say no to alcohol completely this Christmas. Volunteer yourself as deso driver so you have no option but to say ‘no’ to the temptation of drinking. You’ll wake up feeling better for it the next day and your body will thank you!

And finally, enjoy it. Don’t let yourself feel guilty for treating yourself a little over the festive season. Everything in moderation is ok. Indulge, just don’t over indulge. Appreciate the time you spend with family and friends and make the most of your time off.

Wishing you all a happy, safe and HEALTHY Christmas.

Love Elo xx