People want to see you do well, but never better than them.
Friends, family and even aquaintances. They all say they want you to succeed. They wish you well and encourage you to pursue your dreams. They say they want you to be happy and find the love you deserve. They’ll support you in your career aspirations and barrack for you to reach your fitness goals. But when you achieve those milestones, do they still show the same level of encouragement? Are they still your number one fan or do they suddenly become far less supportive of all the hard work (and/or hardships) that got you there?
This is something I have become very aware of lately. Friends who I thought would be happy for my happiness and share in my joy have taken a back seat. The people who were behind me every step of the way when I was simply trudging along, are the ones who have shown very little positivity towards me and where I am now. And it’s kind of heartbreaking. When the people you expect will support you the most don’t at all, it hurts.
Now, this isn’t me wanting to be ‘rewarded’ or ‘celebrated’. That’s not what this is about. It’s about wanting to share the good times with the people who have been part of my journey up until this point. The people who know about the ups and downs, the good and the bad that has led me to where I am now. My closest friends who have been by my side, listening, advising and supporting. The friends who I share everything with… You’d think these would be the people who are happy for me, but sadly it doesn’t seem to be that way at all. And all I can wonder is, why?
Is it jealousy? Were they faking their support this whole time? Only pretending to care? Perhaps it’s just them projecting their own insecurities? Projecting a sadness over having not yet accomplished their own goals yet? It could be any, or all of the above.
Regardless of the reason, I have learnt something valuable from all of this.
It has taught me to…
“Take notice of the people who are happy for your happiness and sad for your sadness. Those are the ones that deserve a special place in your heart.”
And the people what have remained closely by my side and continually support me, really are the special ones! I know now, who to share my heart with.
Love Elo xx